1) Set a cut off date
This is to help you to know when to stop entertaining the thoughts. What you sow is what you will reap (Galatians 4:7-10), if you allow the seed of disappointment, discouragement, sadness, rage or anger to grow, what you reap could be disastrous as you allow yourself to seep into it and when it grows, it consumed you and you lose grasp of yourself.
2) Know you are God's child
God is faithful and just (Psalm 111:7). Stay fervent in prayers and seek God in these time. When you seek Him in prayers, be firm and know what God can do in your life, it can progressively shift your focus and perspective that helps you to move forward than moving back pondering on the issue - the issue that you think is bad enough would not turn to be better or to even make you think something good will come out of it - not yet.
Stay positive and not self inflict more negative elements to that issue.
I've learnt never try to make a 'wrong' right-leave it to God cause we will never ever get it right.
Know God already has a plan; He already knows the future (Jeremiah 29:11), and He will bring about justice! Before eternity is through, He will right the wrongs that have been done unto you. But, you have to release the situation into His Hands first.
3) Forgive (Matthew 6:12) and forget
This is the difficult part I think, where many would think they could have actually forgiven that someone, but they have not; do a deep search and if you find anger and disappointment or even sadness persisting then you have not forgive.
I agree this is not an exceptionally easy thing to do..so don't be cruel to yourself, let yourself have some time in this, diluting and eventually wiping out the hurts and scars that cuts deeply. Seek God and ask God to bring this to pass.
Forgiving is releasing negative emotions, feelings and thoughts out of you which could prevent you from receiving the abundance of God blessings and withholding God's grace in your life. When forgiving is achieve forgetting comes easy.
Dear Lord Father, I commit my brothers and sisters and also myself into Your Hands, God as trials and tribulations befall us in this world we are living in, God help us to know that You are a God who is faithful and just and You are always with us in this trying period; and, God I know that You'll not allow anything that's too difficult for us to handle, so God, please help us to overcome and rise up above these. Help us to know making the wrongs right which we certainly can't do because it is beyond us but not beyond You . God, I pray and ask for Your unceasing grace to release forgiveness to ourselves and to others that have caused the hurt and to know that You are God that is sovereign in our life and will make everything goes well for us. I thank You God for the good and bad things that have happened and is happening to us that make us realize that You are so real and also be able to experience Your wonderful love in our life. Thank You God, in Jesus name I pray, Amen =)
have a blessed day =)
